There is always one person who knows how to solve problems. This person will not join others in the process of criticizing anyone. This person may seem to have memory problems but can on the other hand, quickly solve difficult life problems. This person may be an artist or a scientist and will often mention logic and creativity in the same breath.
Since this person is not group oriented and in fact represents less than five per cent of the population one must listen.
Logic and poetry may get your attention.
You may be this person and haven’t discovered it yet.
Listen not for the problem solver; listen for the obvious mistakes and then ask The Big Lover how you did that.