Category Archives: SAFETY

SAFETY FIRST (among giants)

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SAFETY FIRST

 

Life among giants is tricky.

We begin by staying close to Mom.

We venture out.

We crawl.

We rise up on our hind legs and we stumble.

We cry out for Mom but before she reaches us we are up again and on the move.

From Birth till Ever we search for safety.

We measure that safety with terms of approval.

We shout to the horizon “I am not afraid”.

And even when disappointed beyond words we seek additional measures of approval.

We had begun one person at a time until one day we decided “more is better”.

More approval meant  more cooperation but less emphasis on being right.

We stopped experimenting.

We adopted the attitudes and belief systems of the  group.

We rebelled occasionally, unhappy with having opted to be less true to ourselves in favor of what? Safety? Fairness? Fairness? Why had we abdicated our Freedom?

We had a cup of coffee in the most popular coffee shop and thought about it.

This isn’t so bad… is it?

Is it?

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I AM I DO

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I AM I DO 
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Our first scream is an involuntary response to the first gasp. It occurs at the moment of our first sensation of fear; our first decision, our first affirmation and our initial attempt at managing our place in this new world.

This first noisy protest is interrupted with cradled arms and soft, cooing Mommy Words, which lend a hint that this dangerous world into which we have been thrust has an oasis of safety; ours for the price of a scream.

The calming voice, the gentle words are familiar to the newly initiated. The touch of Mother’s hands are a new sensation but it too is somehow, known.

Our first scientific experiment has begun.

This is our first experience at asking for and receiving Love, a sensation which will in future decades become confused with Approval.

Our  experiments will become more sophisticated if not necessarily objective; life and the events that greet us will be measured, examined, dissected and reassembled as we seek to secure Maximum Safety.

Life may be more difficult for those of us who have missed the touching and the softly spoken words of gentle parenting. Perhaps we ask for help.

Later, in the language of Mommy Words we may even ask another, untouched soul “May I lend a hand?”

And a Spark of The Spirit ignites the flame of LOVE.

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THE LIE

 

THE LIE

In the early stages of our lifelong search for safety we discover THE LIE. For most of us THE LIE is the result of constant experimentation and as the leading edge of our life plan will remain so until the time comes to say goodbye.

We tell THE LIE with body language, vocabulary and countless mini-lies as life flies past.

Some of us become quite animated, our faces, punctuated by giggles and grins. Perhaps our arms are folded; others will want their jeans creased, insisting on a world of NEAT.

As life goes on we will be known by the reputations which have resulted from these decisions,  ready to greet the world as such, well before the end of our second year.

Later in their teens the Big Strong  football star with folded arms and even disposition will be cheered by the giggly gal who leads the cheer leader squad and he’ll say to his quiet self, “I’m gonna marry that girl  one day and we’ll have strong, happy children who will grow up and do the same.” He pauses for a moment longer to feel the love in his heart; he starts to fold his arms but he felt the Love in his heart and dropped his arms at his side.

“I accept the Love”, he thought…

“I accept the Love and I’ll pass it on...
and that ain’t NO LIE.”

 

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THE GIFT OF FEAR

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FEAR is a gift.

FEAR teaches us to search for SAFETY.

FEAR teaches us to BE STRONG, to BE COMPLIANT, to be PERFECT.

FEAR motivates us to compete.

And so…

FEAR teaches us COURAGE.

FEAR teaches us FAITH.

FEAR  teaches us to PROTECT each other.

LOVE on the other hand, makes all this perfectionism unnecessary.

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THE GIFT OF FEAR

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THE GIFT OF FEAR Lee Broom

 

FEAR is a gift.

FEAR teaches us to search for SAFETY.

FEAR teaches us to BE STRONG, to BE COMPLIANT, to be PERFECT.

FEAR motivates us to compete.

And so…

FEAR teaches us COURAGE.

FEAR teaches us FAITH.

FEAR  teaches us to PROTECT each other.

LOVE on the other hand, makes all this perfectionism unnecessary.

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CAMOUFLAGE

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CAMOUFLAGE


We want to be different, don’t we?

To be noticed,

But not too much.

We also want to be loved don’t we?

Respected, so let’s go Dutch.

One of the gang

But also special;

Sometimes we hug

Perhaps we wrestle

With issues,

With tissues

But really,

Not too much.

 

It  takes but a second for the new life to learn of danger and another for the first flicker of fear.

And, for most it takes a lifetime of searching for safety to decide that none exists.

To seek safety for one’s self is an act of fear and can result only in failure.

To seek safety for others is an act of Love and can result only in success.
Love is a state of Being.

Forgiveness is a state of Being.
The word LOVE whether spoken or in print has one very unusual property. When expressed as a verb it remains a noun; when one performs an “act” of Love, Love becomes The Lover for both parties.

The word Love and the description of Love which is Forgiveness are words which can only represent a State of Being.

When we say to the Source of all Love and all Knowledge, “I accept” we have taken the first step in being transformed from Victims to Lovers.

As Lovers we know safety.

Safety is rarely visible but it is always familiar.

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SAFETY FIRST

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SAFETY FIRST

 

Life among giants is tricky.

We begin by staying close to Mom.

We venture out.

We crawl.

We rise up on our hind legs and we stumble.

We cry out for Mom but before she reaches us we are up again and on the move.

From Birth till Ever we search for safety.

We measure that safety with terms of approval.

We shout to the horizon “I am not afraid”.

And even when disappointed beyond words we seek additional measures of approval.

We had begun one person at a time until one day we decided “more is better”.

More approval meant  more cooperation but less emphasis on being right.

We stopped experimenting.

We adopted the attitudes and belief systems of the  group.

We rebelled occasionally, unhappy with having opted to be less true to ourselves in favor of what? Safety? Fairness? Fairness? Why had we abdicated our Freedom?

We had a cup of coffee in the most popular coffee shop and thought about it.

This isn’t so bad… is it?

Is it?

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Lee Broom

THE GIFT OF FEAR

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THE GIFT OF FEAR

I spend way too much time talking about overcoming FEAR.

I suffer from the FEAR of never having enough.

What I am learning is…

FEAR is a gift.

FEAR teaches us to search for SAFETY.

FEAR teaches us to BE STRONG, to BE COMPLIANT, to be PERFECT.

FEAR motivates us to compete; as we play games we not only have fun but we acquire and hone the skills necessary for protecting those sources of SAFETY, our families, our institutions of learning, our jobs. It is in these places of SAFETY that we discover the second of life’s great gifts, The GIFT of LOVE.

And so…

FEAR teaches us COURAGE.

FEAR teaches us FAITH.

FEAR  teaches us to PROTECT each other.

LOVE on the other hand, makes all this perfectionism unnecessary.

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THE PSYCHOLOGY OF AMBIVALENCE

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THE PSYCHOLOGY OF AMBIVALENCE

SAFETY FIRST

When thinking on our own, we rarely do.

Whether  attempting to fill our bellies or empty them, whether building a family or a career, we are seeking to sate our single most important need, the security of living as safely as possible.

Our number one way of doing so involves winning the approval of others. It isn’t so much that we need the approval but that the greater the group, the greater the approval and the greater the approval the safer life appears to be.

Our investments in time and money are always somehow related to approval – seeking or in a more truthful way of speaking, safety – seeking.

How shall we dress, where do we shop, attend school, work, worship (or not)….these are the things that help us decide how and where we spend our money and our time.

Sometimes however, we are faced with making a choice that appears to have no good solution. Our feelings of ambivalence are so strong that either of two choices leaves us feeling completely powerless.

Since we rarely understand that our choices are driven by a need for approval, we focus on the practical aspects of the problem and the result is denial. Either choice appears to be the wrong choice.

If we are to be able to choose well we need to see the search for approval for what it is and what it is NOT. Eventually, if we are successful in recognizing the utter futility of pleasing all who  would drive us one way or the other; we realize that our basic drive is not for approval but for LOVE. And again, only if we are honest we will realize that Love, unlike approval, is the only thing that can solve our dilemma.

If Love exists it must come from a Power so great as to be free of all ambivalence, a Power which is the memory of all past and future events. Some call this Power the Akashik record; some say God; some say the unwavering sense of the Integrity of Self. Only Love can provide the strength to overcome ambivalence; only Love can  can calm our delicate egos; only Love can take us serenely from point a to point b. The way we acquire that Love is to say “I accept”.

We affirm our acceptance by sharing that Love.